As we said earlier, if the partner can prove a reasonable excuse for the withdrawal of conjugal rights then a decree of restitution cannot be passed.
The standard of “reasonableness” is a very common principle of legal systems found in various laws. The law expects us to act as a “reasonable person” and not sensitive. But “reasonableness” is a vague principle. Legal Scholar Usha Ramanathan, in her study of cases between 1920-1950, finds that the standard of reasonableness, although “taking on a mask of principle”, is largely a sweeping “generalization that displaces difference and produces stereotypes” about women.
This makes the remedy of restitution particularly vulnerable to patriarchal expectations of wives. Thus, in a range of cases relating to women working away from home, husbands would file petitions for restitution to force their wives to leave their jobs and move back to the home of their husbands or in-laws. Courts often obliged the husbands citing “the sacrosanct nature of marriage” and “holy duties of [the] wife”.
Thus, in a 1977 case, the Punjab and Haryana High Court held that a wife’s refusal to resign from her job amounts to withdrawal from the “world of the husband” and thus is a ground for restitution. In this case, the wife had been working for a long time prior to her marriage. The court held that marriage is a holy union for the performance of marital duties with her husband where he may choose to reside and to fulfil her duties in her husband’s home.
Flavia Agnes argues that this reeks of the master-servant concept where only the husband gets to decide where the parties would reside. This is particularly because consent is not a requirement for a valid marriage under the Hindu law. Under section 5 of the Hindu Marriage Act, a valid marriage can be solemnised irrespective of the consent of the woman.
Today what constitutes a reasonable excuse is more consistent and courts have held that a wife cannot be forced to live with her husband against her wishes. A husband’s abusive behaviour may be considered reasonable justification against an application of restitution.
Yet, husbands continue to file for it seeking to enforce patriarchal expectations of women in marriage. Thus, in 2019, a husband filed a petition seeking restitution of conjugal rights arguing that his wife was living with her parents. The wife argued that she had left him because he and her in-laws would beat her for money and even dragged her out of the house.
The court does not allow the petition of the husband but it operates overall with the patriarchal logics of expectations of wives. It notes:
“In our society, importance is given to the wishes of the husband. Even if the wife is not comfortable with her in-laws, she has to follow the wishes of her husband and stay there along with the parents of her husband in order to respect the wishes of her husband. However, in the changing scenario of the lifestyle and considering the developing concept of nuclear family, importance is also required to be given to the wishes of the wife.”
Thus, the court continues to legitimise the importance of “the wishes of husband” and reduces physical violence against women to “difference of attitude” and “lifestyle”.
Again in a matter of restitution, the Madhya Pradesh High Court noted that “the institution of marriage is a pious institution with solemnity attached to it. Husband and wife both are expected to live together with [a] sense of adjustment and co-existence”. In this case the order allowing the petition was passed with the agreement of the wife but overall, the gendered expectation of marriage remains.