Aiman Bhat, 39, describes herself as hanth, a pejorative in Kashmiri for childless women. She is an accomplished young woman with a doctorate in humanities but the indignities piled on her for not being able to conceive have brought her to the psychiatry department of Institute of Mental Health and Neuro Sciences in Srinagar for therapy.
“My daughter worked hard all her life to make herself independent but now she is dependent on her widowed mother,” said Shaheena, who has accompanied her to the hospital. Aiman has had three failed cycles of IVF which themselves were traumatising. And then there is the harassment she faces from her husband’s family for being childless.
“Where will she get a child from? Her health is not good after these procedures and she complains of frequent headaches, backache and anxiety,” says Shaheena pointing to Aiman’s haggard and pale face.
Aiman’s struggle is not uncommon in Kashmir among women coping with the multiple stresses of involuntary childlessness. A host of factors have led to a high level of infertility in Kashmir, especially marriages delayed due to the multiple impacts of the conflict situation as well as very high prevalence of polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS), as we explain later. This is further compounded by social conservatism and the lack of affordable reproductive health facilities. All of it is pushing several women in Kashmir into a mental health crisis, shows anecdotal evidence and interviews with medical experts.
Yasir Rather, an assistant professor in the Department of Psychiatry, Government Medical College (GMC), says that a good number of childless Kashmiri women patients come to him in acute distress. “These women have developed clinical depression, anxiety, sleep and adjustment issues,” said Rather.
In progressive societies, voluntary childlessness has found acceptance and a declining fertility rate is perceived as increased reproductive autonomy among women. But in conservative communities, a woman’s worth in a family and community is measured by her ability to produce children. If she cannot, she is stigmatised and the burden of this “failure” is borne entirely by her. In Kashmir, for instance, childless women are condemned as bringers of “bad luck” and worse.
Infertility is a significant clinical problem that impacts 8–12% of couples worldwide, as per this 2021 study which cites 2016 WHO figures for India as falling somewhere between between 3.9% and 16.8%.
Around 10-15% of the population in Kashmir struggles with infertility, as per a 2020 study to assess “knowledge and attitude of infertile Kashmiri couples” in the International Journal of Reproductive, Contraception, Obstetrics and Gynaecology. “Among the above percentage, the prevalence of primary and secondary infertility was 72 percent and 28 percent respectively,” the study noted.