A critical aspect of the counselling is the discussions around self reliance. What sort of skills does the woman have which can be put to commercial use? Cooking, stitching, farm work, construction work, beauty parlour skills and so on. “Usually when a woman is married [in rural areas], her in-laws do not allow her to work outside. So she loses her confidence. We try to motivate her to start work again,” said Rana.
It was this counselling that helped Madinaben find her feet.
She had been beaten by her mother-in-law for asking for clothes for her infant son and had arrived at the hospital for treatment. Since it was a case of domestic violence, a medico-legal case (when the examining doctor feels further investigation is needed by law enforcing agencies) was filed and she was referred to the kendra for counselling.
After she filed a case of maintenance, the court mandated that she be paid Rs. 2500 a month but after one and half years, her husband convinced her to return to him and withdraw the case. There was peace for a few months and then Madinaben became pregnant again. Her husband, mother-in-law and sister-in-law started beating her and threatening her with a second wife. This time, she returned to the sub-district hospital at Radhanpur and filed a case against her husband.
Madinaben asked for a one time settlement of Rs 5 lakh and the custody of her children. Community leaders did step into the negotiations to insist that she surrender her son and take home her daughter but she refused. The final settlement allowed her the custody of the children and an alimony of Rs. 2.5 lakh.
With that money, the resourceful Madinaben bought a plot of land, leased her house, invested in her uncle’s fruit business and bought a sewing machine. “Women should make something of their lives, let him (husband) remarry. We should live a full life,” she says.
What if a woman opts to patch up with her husband despite the violence? In such cases, survivors are counselled on identifying a support network of friends, family or neighbours. A safety plan is also created with tips on how to prevent or reduce the impact of violence – making a noise to alert neighbours, escaping at the earliest opportunity and keeping sharp objects out of the assaulter’s reach for example. Women are also advised to call 181, Gujarat’s women’s helpline.
This reportage is part of the SWATI and BehanBox fellowship on rural health sector response to gender based violence in Gujarat.